How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.



This is 49 minutes of Noel Coward speaking. This is how Chris Colfer is going to be speaking during the movie. YOU ARE WELCOME.

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Klaine in a french cafe requested by the lovely Ida!

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QuestionWhen are you gonna write the next part to bound in blue? I'm in love with the series and need to find out what happens next!! Answer

I can’t give you a firm answer, sorry (too much else going on for me right now), but I promise it won’t be anything like how long you’ve had to wait before!  Hopefully soon.  I know that’s vague, but it’s the best I can do.  I’m so glad you’re enjoying it! 

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QuestionDear Chazzam, I'm writting to you from Russia. I have just read The Sidhe so I was wondering - would you like this work of yours to be translated into Russian? I had no idea how to contact you better(I'm sort of technical-dummy). so if you like the idea, please write at least a link so I would contact you for further discussions)) thank you for such a masterpiece)) Answer

From one technical dummy to another, hello!  This is a fine way to contact me, so no worries. :)

I’m so glad you’re willing to take on such a monumental task, and you absolutely have my permission to translate The Sidhe!  I think one other person may have translated it into Russian already (I really shouldn’t have lost track of the translation requests from a few years back, but alas…) but you are more than welcome to do so as well.  And if you let me know when you post it, I’ll be sure to link to it in a tumblr post! 

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I am sad to say that I honestly don’t know!  I posted that 3 years ago when I was still new to tumblr, and I didn’t really get how tumblr worked and I fucked up a lot.  So I probably just reposted someone else’s gif without giving them credit like an asshole, and now I can’t help you find the porn.  I’m sorry. :(

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I have not!  But I have been contemplating checking it out for some time…